Five reasons she doesn't want to have sex with you You’re in a relationship and she’s turned you down again. What does it mean? YOUR...
Five reasons she doesn't want to have
sex with you
You’re in a relationship and she’s turned you down again. What does it mean? YOUR GIRLFRIEND: WHY DOESN’T SHE WANT YOU?
Well, it could be a ton of things really, but here are five.
You haven’t put in any effort
You might have an instant on-switch, but chances are, she doesn’t.
I've been in a relationship for about 9 months with a girl I really care about. We do not fight very often but when we do she shuts down and it is difficult to have an "adult" conversation. She is 23 and I am 26 so we are both young and at times immature and irrational. This is why when we do fight it can drag on and it takes us some time to get on the same page again.
In this relationship I love to give. I love to do little things that make her smile and happy. I caress, touch, whisper how she drives me crazy on a regular basis. This keeps our sex life in check and we have sex an average of 4-5 times a week.
Here is the problem...I am the only one initiating anything. Even when I am in the mood and I know she is tired and had a long day I will tell her, relax...I'm giving you a massage tonight, would you like a bath or a glass or wine....and all that caring good boyfriend that I am stuff.
Have you been acting like a total ass?
Are you now just expecting her to jump in to bed for you?
Are you even thinking about foreplay and the difference that will make or are you just focused on getting in, getting out and getting to sleep before you have to get up for work in the morning?
There’s something else going on in her world that is distracting her
Is she having a hard time at work?
Has she had a fight with a friend?
Have you talked to her and actually listened to what is going on in the part of her world that doesn’t involve you?
She’s on her period
Yes, yes, some women love to have sex when they’re on their period but others find themselves in excruciating pain while part of their body is ripped from inside them.
Don’t think the pain can be that bad? Well, scientists believe that a bad menstrual cramp is the equivalent to being kicked in the balls.
Imagine being kicked in the balls every 20 minutes for two or three days.
Sit back, truly imagine, let that idea sink in. Now, ask yourself, how much would you feel like having some dude climbing all over you in the middle of all that?
She’s tired
Has she just finished a massive gym session?
Been working overtime or early/late shifts?
Returned to a house that looks like it’s inhabited by frat boys?
Even the most enlightened guy, and I consider myself pretty enlightened having lived most of my life as female until recently, doesn’t undertake 50 per cent of the responsibility for running a household.
Pick up after yourself.
You smell
I used to think it was my imagination that men stank.
Then I started hormone therapy and, well, now I know for sure that they do.
It’s not our fault, it’s the testosterone. Honest.
What is, however, our fault, is thinking that it’s acceptable to smell that badly and expect someone to lick us.
If you need two showers and two changes of clothes a day to be around other people, have three just to be safe.
sex with you
You’re in a relationship and she’s turned you down again. What does it mean? YOUR GIRLFRIEND: WHY DOESN’T SHE WANT YOU?
Well, it could be a ton of things really, but here are five.
You haven’t put in any effort
You might have an instant on-switch, but chances are, she doesn’t.
I've been in a relationship for about 9 months with a girl I really care about. We do not fight very often but when we do she shuts down and it is difficult to have an "adult" conversation. She is 23 and I am 26 so we are both young and at times immature and irrational. This is why when we do fight it can drag on and it takes us some time to get on the same page again.
In this relationship I love to give. I love to do little things that make her smile and happy. I caress, touch, whisper how she drives me crazy on a regular basis. This keeps our sex life in check and we have sex an average of 4-5 times a week.
Here is the problem...I am the only one initiating anything. Even when I am in the mood and I know she is tired and had a long day I will tell her, relax...I'm giving you a massage tonight, would you like a bath or a glass or wine....and all that caring good boyfriend that I am stuff.
Have you been acting like a total ass?
Are you now just expecting her to jump in to bed for you?
Are you even thinking about foreplay and the difference that will make or are you just focused on getting in, getting out and getting to sleep before you have to get up for work in the morning?
There’s something else going on in her world that is distracting her
Is she having a hard time at work?
Has she had a fight with a friend?
Have you talked to her and actually listened to what is going on in the part of her world that doesn’t involve you?
She’s on her period
Yes, yes, some women love to have sex when they’re on their period but others find themselves in excruciating pain while part of their body is ripped from inside them.
Don’t think the pain can be that bad? Well, scientists believe that a bad menstrual cramp is the equivalent to being kicked in the balls.
Imagine being kicked in the balls every 20 minutes for two or three days.
Sit back, truly imagine, let that idea sink in. Now, ask yourself, how much would you feel like having some dude climbing all over you in the middle of all that?
She’s tired
Has she just finished a massive gym session?
Been working overtime or early/late shifts?
Returned to a house that looks like it’s inhabited by frat boys?
Even the most enlightened guy, and I consider myself pretty enlightened having lived most of my life as female until recently, doesn’t undertake 50 per cent of the responsibility for running a household.
Pick up after yourself.
You smell
I used to think it was my imagination that men stank.
Then I started hormone therapy and, well, now I know for sure that they do.
It’s not our fault, it’s the testosterone. Honest.
What is, however, our fault, is thinking that it’s acceptable to smell that badly and expect someone to lick us.
If you need two showers and two changes of clothes a day to be around other people, have three just to be safe.
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